My Last Grandparent Has Passed Away
I lost my Grandpa last Friday. Mom called me at work to give me the news. Grandpa was one of a kind. We say that about many people when they pass, sometimes to be polite, sometimes with just a touch of sarcasm because of those parts of their personality that made them unique in ways that we would prefer not to be unique.
But not my Grandpa Stark.
For the entire time that I've known him, Grandpa lived his life with purpose, enthusiasm, and zest. He was cautious and temperate in how he conducted himself and open minded in his view of others. While those terms have taken on a political flavor in recent years, my Grandpa lived in a manner reminiscent of the days when those words meant more than they are today.
There was a very brief time when I was considering the idea of pursuing photography as a profession. Grandma didn't think much of the idea, but Grandpa stuck up for me. He said that being a good photographer was as decent and rewarding as any other profession. The idea of being a photographer didn't stick with me long, but I remember that my Grandpa was willing to look at both sides of that decision and see the possibilities.
He was that way with anyone he ever met.
He was a bit like those Canadian geese that he spent so much time trying to keep from doing their business all over his back yard. Those geese swam knowing which way they wanted to go. They also swam with seeming effortlessness and grace. Yet below the water line, those feet must have been moving as fast as egg beaters. Grandpa made life look easy and busy all at the same time. And he did so with seeming ease and a great deal of grace.
My Grandpa gave of himself when and where he could. And he gave an awful lot to me over the years.
One day I hope to post my own personal list of things to do if one wishes to be successful. Many I learned from my Grandpa's example of how a decent person is supposed to live.
At his funeral, the pastor made a big deal out of celebrating Grandpa's Christian faith. She made it sound like he lived his life always thinking about the "Christian" way of doing things.
But that doesn't make any sense to me. My Grandpa's faith was a part of him. It wasn't like a coat you wear to keep out the cold. It was like the need to put on deodorant, brush your teeth, and shave in the same order each morning. It was like the person that you can always count on to be in a good mood on Monday morning, just because that is how they are every day.
Grandpa didn't have to think about being a good person. He just was a good person. And he is some one that I will miss for a very long time.
For as long as the link lasts, you can read an article about my Grandpa, Donald H. Stark, that appeared in the Flint Journal.
by Dann
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