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Is communication is off the hook?
When you speak, who listens?
By John R. Graham
Along with the laptop computer, e-mail,
voice mail and the cell phone are among the best tools business
has available today. And they keep getting better, more
efficient and easier to use.
Although we can’t escape from the
ubiquitous reach of one communication device or another,
it’s preferable to being cut off. When the chair of a
meeting asks that all cell phones be turned off, half the group
goes into withdrawals, while the other half ignores the
request.
No one says, “I can hardly wait to
go on vacation and get away from the phone.” Yet, not so
long ago these were the last words spoken before heading out.
While the plus side of the communication
ledger is impressive, there’s another, darker side. And
it isn’t
“wouldn’t-life-be-wonderful-without-the-technology”
nonsense. There’s little room today for latter-day
Luddites.
The problem isn’t the technology.
It’s with us, the users. Great communications have not
produced great communicators. Just the opposite is true. As
communications technology improves, communications skills
decline. This includes e-mail, cell phones and voice mail.
If you think otherwise, just ask anyone
who depends on these technologies to write a business letter.
It will be a painful, frustrating experience and nine times out
of ten, the results will be total failure.
These technologies tend to promote
unacceptable business (and personal) behaviors:
“Off the
hook” attitude. If we’re late for a meeting,
calling to say we’ll be along in 30 minutes absolves us
from the responsibility for being on time. Just making the call
is all it takes. Or e-mailing the message that we didn’t
get the expected report completed is all that’s
necessary.
A lack of planning. Because
we can move information so quickly today, there’s a
tendency to leave tasks until the very last minute and either
throw something together to meet the deadline or press a few
keys to say it will be late.
The belief that act
equals action. Perhaps the most distressing issue of all is the
way communication technology fosters the erroneous notion that
the act of sending a message is communicating. Whether or not
someone receives the message and understands it is irrelevant.
I sent it; I did my job.
Each of the three most popular forms of
communication — e-mail, cell phone and voice mail —
fosters its own form of miscommunication.
E-mail
Without question, e-mail is the most
useful form of business communication today, including the cell
phone. Instead of looking at the whole, we now think in
bits-and-pieces. It’s as if we’re no longer able to
conceptualize. One executive received 47 e-mails from a client
over a 10-day period on a small project.
Rather than organizing the information,
the client simply dashed off the series of e-mails as various
thoughts came to mind. When the executive inquired about a
particular issue, the client stated, “I sent you that
several days ago.”
As e-mail recipients, the burden now rests
with us to put the jigsaw puzzles together. There are easy ways
to improve and facilitate e-mail communications.
Create an e-mail thread.
Going back and forth using the same e-mail to discuss a
particular issue is the best way to create continuity and to
avoid the “bits and pieces” problem. Now, you have
a record and all the messages are in one place.
Limit each message to a
single subject. There’s nothing worse than trying to deal
with multiple subjects wrapped up in a single e-mail message.
Sure it saves the sender time, but it drives the recipient to
distraction!
Use the subject line.
There’s no excuse for failing to use the subject line.
Because of persistent virus problems, the best rule is to
delete any message without a recognizable subject.
Watch the shorthand. E-mail
shorthand is fun and it saves keystrokes. But it also opens the
door to misunderstanding and confusion. Keep the shorthand for
friends and family where you can be as confusing as you like.
Signature. Never send a
business e-mail without a signature that includes all your
contact information. Often times, it’s necessary to place
a phone call or send a fax after reading an e-mail. Make it
easy for the recipient.
Respond after receiving.
It’s just plain rude not to respond when you receive an
e-mail (other than junk mail, of course). How does the sender
know you actually read the message? With all the junk mail
floating around, it’s easy to delete a message
accidentally without reading it. Just a word or two will do:
Thanks. Will do. Get it to you shortly. Appreciate the info.
Voice mail
Just because voice mail has been with us
so long now, it does not receive the attention it deserves when
it comes to etiquette. Here are a few suggestions for improving
voice mail communication.
Make your recorded message
short. Too many words waste the listener’s time. Here is
an actual message: “This is the voice mail mailbox of
Martha Shrunk. Your message is important to me. I am away from
my desk at the present time, but leave a message of whatever
length. I will get back to you as soon as possible. If you need
immediate help, dial zero.” Some recordings are even
longer and equally as boring.
Try this: “This is Martha Shrunk.
Please leave a message.”
Think before speaking. The
chances of getting voice mail when placing a telephone call are
close to 100 percent — and rising. Even knowing the
probabilities, we fail to plan our “script.” A
script?
That’s right. If the call is
important, then prepare a brief message that will have an
impact on the listener. The “who, when, what, where, why
and how” words are a perfect outline. Even though we
don’t reach a person by phone, we can reach them with the
best possible message. And don’t leave anyone wondering.
No one has the time to figure out what we’re trying to
say.
Leave a short message.
Effective communicators think first about the listener, not
themselves. Amateurs do just the opposite.
Don’t leave long, detailed messages.
Rather, indicate how you intend to follow up. “George,
just wanted you to know that I am e-mailing you the specs. Look
forward to your response. I’ll call you
tomorrow.”
Speak slowly. There is
nothing worse than trying to listen to a voice mail message
when the individual is speaking at the speed of sound. When
that happens, it’s time to hit the erase button. Speak
slowly, particularly when giving instructions or leaving
telephone numbers.
Repeat telephone
numbers. Having to replay a voice mail several times to get a
telephone number doesn’t create a positive feeling about
the caller! “Here’s the number; let me repeat it
for you.”
Cell phone
Now, the cell phone. It would seem that
something near 95 percent of all cell phone calls are
unnecessary. It’s as if we call anyone who happens to pop
into our heads. It’s as if Americans can’t be alone
for even a few minutes.
More than anything else, it may be that
what’s important isn’t the message when it comes to
the cell phone, but the medium, the phone itself. Cell phone
graveyards must be huge, as we buy a new phone every six
months.
For some reason, our use of the cell phone
seems to breech every rule of etiquette.
Total rudeness. If someone
bumps into you and keeps going without saying a word, you can
bet the person is talking on the phone. Drivers who poke along
aren’t 80 years old. They’re talking on the phone.
Try to read anything in an airport waiting
area. Forget it! There are always those who speak to the crowd
instead of the person they’re calling. One is intent on
describing her love life (or lack of it), seemingly unaware of
those nearby.
Why so many of us think that we must shout
to be heard when using a cell phone harkens back to the days of
Alexander Graham Bell. “Yes, Mr. Watson, I heard you. Now
get off the line.”
The cell phone in the office.
Most offices have a policy for limiting personal calls. And for
good reason. Some employees have difficulty separating their
work from their personal lives. Then comes along the cell phone
and solves the problem. Cell phone calls don’t count, or
at least that’s the way it seems. With the vibration
mode, it’s even easier. Frankly, that’s a wrong
number.
It’s OK to interrupt.
Phone calls have long taken precedence in the office. No matter
what you’re doing, when the phone rings, answer it.
That’s the rule. Even when meeting with someone on
business, we take calls.
There has been improvement however.
“Please hold my calls” and “Put my calls in
voice mail” have made meeting life more bearable.
But the cell phone has wiped all gains in
telephone etiquette. If a cell phone rings, it will be answered
no matter what’s going on. It’s rude to allow cell
phone call interruptions. As a friend says, “Every cell
phone has an off button.”
Intrusion of the personal. If
there were remnants of “delayed gratification” to
be found, the cell phone has eliminated them. We have become
victims of the “phone fix,” the intrusion of our
private lives into the workplace and with it, the triumph of
the personal over work.
How much lost time do personal cell phone
calls account for? Even more to the point, what is the cost of
the interruptions and lost concentration on the job at hand?
E-mail, voice mail and the cell phone.
While the technology is both brilliant and essential,
considerable discipline is necessary if we are to benefit fully
by becoming clear, concise and effective communicators.
Clearly, we’re not there yet.
John R. Graham is president of Graham
Communications, a marketing services and sales consulting firm.
He is an author of several books, writes for a variety of
publications and speaks and association meetings. He can be
contacted by phone at (617) 328-0069 or by e-mail at
j_graham@grahamcomm.com. The company's web site is www.grahamcomm.com.
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